Gender-based Perspectives among Formerly Married Individuals on Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment

Abstract

The family serves as a cornerstone of Filipino society and cultural identity. However, Filipino families are significantly impacted by marital dissolution, which, despite its high financial and emotional costs, is becoming more prevalent. This comparative case study investigates the gender-based differences and similarities in perceptions, expectations, and expressions of intimacy, passion, and commitment across three marital stages (pre-marital, marital, and post-marital) and their contribution to marital breakdown. Using a researcher-designed questionnaire, in-depth interviews were conducted via Zoom with 12 participants (five males and seven females). Furthermore, the researchers did 11 collateral interviews to aid in validating findings from the in-depth interviews. A thematic analysis of interview transcriptions and observations revealed notable gender-based differences and similarities in these dimensions across the marital stages. Findings indicate that misunderstandings, arguments, and communication problems stemming from gender differences often escalate into unresolved conflicts, potentially leading to marital dissolution and long-term emotional distress. To address these challenges and promote healthier, more resilient marriages, the study recommended the development of targeted programs by government and non-government organizations. These initiatives should focus on strengthening marital relationships and fostering a nurturing environment for families and enhancing communication skills. Additionally, the researchers proposed a two-week, twice-a-week gender-sensitive intervention program to assist couples experiencing marital difficulties or crises, with the aim of improving their relationships and safeguarding family stability.

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